DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE - CAN YOU USE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION TO FIND TRUE LOVE?
Have you ever noticed that when you start thinking about buying a new car, you start to see that car everywhere you go? This happens to all of us on both a very small and very large scale. For our purposes, we are talking about the very common idea that our "thoughts create our reality".
Now, you may be thinking... "Wait, this sounds really weird. I've never heard of this stuff before, so it must be bogus." Hold that thought for just a minute... If you're not already in the perfect relationship and your life isn't already exactly as you want it to be, then keep reading. This very short article could just change your life for the better.
So what is the Law of Attraction? Simply put it is a Universal Law that says we will attract into our lives the things that we focus our attention on, whether it is positive or negative. Whether you are aware of it or not, every thought you have, every emotion you feel, everything you hear and read, affects your reality.
So what does that have to do with dating and relationships?
By truly understanding what you want from a relationship and applying some very basic Law of Attraction principles, you will ensure that you get what you truly desire. It is important to understand exactly what physical traits, behaviors, values, beliefs, and interests are important to you so that you can focus on what you want in your relationship instead of what you don't want.
Remember, you will get what you focus on.
Many times, people will go from one failed relationship to another without giving any thought whatsoever to why or how their relationships keep failing. Even better, they over correct and end up in another relationship that fails for similar, yet opposite extreme reasons.
"If you're like I was, you have no idea what you really want
from your next relationship – only it should be completely different from
the last one that failed so miserably!"
I certainly knew what I didn't want – at least from the relationship that just ended. Wouldn't it have been great if I would have taken the time to think about all of the failed relationships and combined all that heartache into one clear idea of what I did and did not want in a relationship? I could have saved myself a few swings of the pendulum.
How do I 'Attract' the perfect relationship for me?
I'm going to show you a real quick and simple way to Attract the exact person that you are looking for - Your dream date!
Take out a piece of paper and write down everything you want in your perfect relationship. What is he or she like? How do they look, smell, talk? What kinds of things will you do together? How do you feel when you're around them? Really get into this and take the time to write down every detail. It'll be well worth it in the end.
Most people never take this step of writing down what they want and yet it is the single most important step in finding the partner of their dreams.
"Do you know that by simply writing down what you want, you increase your chances of getting it by 80%!"
Just think about that for a minute...
Don't doubt yourself. Assume that you are perfect in every way and there is nothing standing in your way of getting exactly what you want. Not money, or looks, or time, or anything else.
"Imagine… You can have anything that you want!"
When you have finished this exercise, you will be well ahead of the game. Take as long as you need... This is key to your ultimate success!
Be VERY clear in your mind about what you want. Otherwise, the Universe will have no idea what you really want – and that's what it will give you. (Just a quick note, when I say 'Universe', I mean God, Buddha, Mother Earth, or whatever term you use for your universal higher power.)
Confused? Stay with me here… Imagine going to a restaurant and ordering a hamburger. The waiter turns in your order. Before your hamburger arrives, you change your order. Now you tell the waiter that you really want a steak. The waiter turns in your order. Before your steak arrives, you tell the waiter that you have changed your mind again and would like a salad. Now at this point, most waiters would tell you to make the salad yourself. The Universe will not do this, but can you see how it is very difficult for the Universe to give you exactly what you want when you don't even know?
OK – finished?
If you didn't do it – go back and do it. I said that this would be simple, but you still have to do a little of the work.
Now that you're very clear about what you really desire in a partner, take that piece of paper, fold it up and carry it with you for at least a week. Carry it in your pocket, in your wallet or purse, or in your underwear. It doesn't matter where you put it, as long as you keep it with you for at least a week. Every time you remember that you have this piece of paper with you, remember the feeling of what it will be like to be with your partner. Really feel it!
There's one more very important step. During this week, make sure that you listen to your gut, or inner voice. If it tells you to stop at the dry cleaners on Tuesday when you normally go on Thursday, go on Tuesday! You may meet you soul mate while your standing in line. The point here is that you've placed your order with the Universe, now you need to pay attention to the signs that are being sent your way and ACT ON THEM!
That's really all there is to this exercise. If you're interested in learning more about the Law of Attraction and how it can change your life, here are some of my favorite books on the subject. Read them all – twice!
"Ask and It Is Given", by Jerry and Ester Hicks
"The Power of Intention", by Wayne Dyer
"The Attractor Factor", by Joe Vitale
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